Why you shouldn’t take it out

Today I want to write about the different ways to deal with anger.

Andreja told me that a large part of our negative feelings often come from our childhood, when we are almost powerless and we need the protection of the relatives to fulfill even the most primary needs. During those first years we are not even able to express how we feel or what we need, and we feel scared to be abandoned or frustrated because the world ignores us.

Undoubtedly this interpretation is partially valid, but we have to consider that often is very difficult to associate our feelings with the originating events. Moreover the emotional resposes to events are very personal and different for each of us. Events follow one another constantly, overlapping processes that deploy at different levels simultaneously,  resulting in a dishomogeneous inner landscape where the most important thing is to orientate indipendently from the mutual influences and the causes of the events.

It does not make too much sense to overanalyse the causes of the events in the majority of cases. We should focus on the acheving of the main goal, which is to be liberated from the negative state of minds – such as anger, ignorance, constant doubt, sadness, exaltation, envy and possessive desire.

Someone could argue that it’s always necessary to comprehend exhaustively all the causes of a phenomenon to solve defenitively the issue, but this is not my opinon (at least in a complex scenario like our inner world, where this results often in a sterile research). Buddha once made an example to clarify this: if a man has been deadly pierced by an arrow the priority is to save his life, and not to investigate on who has shot the arrow or why, and so on…

When I became a young adult I discovered the power of my mind and my body. In order to satisfy a latent sense of revenge I was imposing my will to the people around me, I was violent but in that moment I could not see this. It was my right to make my choices, the more impopular the better. I was strongly egocentric, and a lot of sufference came from this to myself and to the people I loved.

More or less in those years I started practicing martial arts, and I discovered I was very good in figthing. My ego felt grand and, although the confrontation with opponents helped me realising the nature of the wild pleasure of violence, nothing really good came from this. The sense of peace and relaxation after trainings and competitions always quickly evaporated, being caused by tiredness and not by a real development of the mind. Moreover, the theatrical representation of violence on the stage of sport was reinforcing and planting new seeds of anger in my mindfield.

Although on a gross level martial arts require to reduce the power of the ego, on a ore subtle level they reinforce it but here we should debate on the difference between martial arts which have a healing scope and are a wonderful path and figth sports which are also fun, but much more limited in the personal growth possibilities.

After many years of practice I realised I do not fit anymore martial arts, and although I love this disciplines, they did not solve defenitely my problem with anger. I do no say this is valid for everyone, it’s just my story. I also have to mention that to this end strongly contrbuted my entring into Buddhist dharma path many years ago and the daily practice of meditation.

I found two incredible tools to approach emotions and their causes in a constructive way: meditation and yoga. Now, I do not think is the case to enter into the topic of the different kind of Budddhism, meditation and yoga practices, but I jus want to remark that in my opinon there is not a metter path in absolute for everybody, but this is different for each of us and also can change with time. With meditation we can calm our mind and be more aware of our inner unknown world, full of adventure and monsters: by being just present with our thoughts, emotions and peceptions we build a more balanced relatiotship with our ego, that is ironically our worst enemies for its enormous power. Getting closer to our intimacy we can explore with the mindfulness our inner landscape, which is a necessary step to appreciate it. I would say that meditation approaches issues in apparently soft way, but when we analyse it more in depth I appreciate more and more its radical and sophisticated logical ground.

On the other hand Yoga works also at a more physical level, with a slighlty different cut. No need to say that they are both extremely clever healing system, and that can be perfectly combined. The physical work of yogic meditation, in addition to working with the mindfulness and mental formations, has the scope to accelerate the maturation of the negative states of mind without representing the ripen action (and therefore vastly reducing the negative karmic consequences).

As a side affect of a period of intense yogic practice we could experience strange feelings such as anger, sadness or even euphory without apparent reasons, but this is the consequence of the deep effect of the yogic work that unblocks our mind also by physical manipulation and should not be misunderstood with the reinforcement of the ego.



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Dal relativo all’assoluto – ovvero, il coordinamento delle forze.

Mattina, 7 a.m.

Stavo facendo colazione poco prima di dirigermi verso lo studio di Anja in Parmova Ulica 51 per il mio secondo workshop di Ashtanga yoga. Stavo cercando di afferrare un biscotto che si trovava sul fondo di un sacchetto ormai quasi vuoto e, visto che la mia l’altra mano era impegnata a reggere la coperta che mi cingeva i fianchi, con sulla destra annaspavo sul fondo. Per afferrare il biscotto dovevo bloccare la confezione con una mano, mentre con l’altra afferravo il biscotto.

Se la natura, come dicono, è dotata di una grande quantità di energia propria e se può essere opportunamente indirizzata e focalizzata per ottenere un particolare scopo, spesso si rende necessario a tal fine impiegare un sistema di forze opportunamente coordinate: sia sollecitanti che vincolanti.

Mi dimenticai di questo episodio mattutino e mi diressi in Parmova Ulica dove pratico giornalmente sotto la supervisione degli istruttori della scuola di Anja. Oltre alla pratica quotidiana, il corso che sto seguendo prevede alcuni workshop che si tengono durante i fine settimana e durante i quali si approfondiamo numerosi aspetti del significato e della struttura del percorso yogico.

Nella seconda parte del nostro incontro si stava parlando del fatto che alcuni alcuni insegnanti usano correggere manualmente le posizioni nei loro studenti ove lo ritengano necessario. In quel momento l’episodio del pacchetto di biscotti accaduto poco innanzi mi venne in mente e lo associai alla discussione in corso. Ne vidi il parallelismo: vi sono casi in cui è necessario combinare vincoli e sollecitazioni nel modo opportuno. Il coordinamento delle forze ne determina il risultato, che trascende – almeno per un momento – le forze messe in gioco. Insomma l’insegnante che sollecita e lo studente che resiste/collabora sono neutri nell’attimo in cui trascendono la propria soggettività per raggiungere un fine comune.

Trovo che questo sia un esempio di quello che si definisce “andare oltre al dualismo” di soggetto e oggetto, di interno ed esterno, si sollecitazione e vincolo. Una metafora applicata che ci mostra come possiamo sperimentare ciò che razionalmente facciamo fatica a spiegare.

Morning, 7 a.m.

I was having breakfast just before heading towards the studio of Anja in Parmova Ulica 51 for my second workshop of Ashtanga yoga. I was trying to grab a cookie that was on the bottom of its almost empty package and, as my other hand was committed to hold the blanket I was covering with, with the right I was searching the bottom of the pack for the last cookie. To grab that biscuit I had to block the pack with one hand, while with the other I grabbed the biscuit.

If the nature, as they say, is equipped with a large amount of energy of its own and if it can be appropriately directed and focused to achieve a particular purpose, it is frequently necessary to this end to employ a system of forces suitably coordinated: both soliciting and binding.

I forgot about this episode and headed to Parmova Ulica where I practice daily under the supervision of the instructors of the school of Anja. In addition to daily practice, the course I’m following provides some workshops, that take place on weekends and during which we explore many aspects of the meaning and structure of the yogic path.

In the second part of our meeting we were talking about the fact that some teachers use some manual correction to adjust the asanas of their students – when they deem it necessary. At that moment, the episode of the packet of biscuits came to my mind and I associated it to the ongoing discussion. I saw the parallel: there are cases where you need to combine forces of different nature in the right way (often apparently opposed).

The coordination of forces determines the outcome, which transcends – at least for a moment – the forces brought into play and with them their respective subjects. In short, the teacher and the student are neutral for that moment that transcends their own subjectivity to reach a common goal.

I find this an example of what is known as “going beyond dualism” of subject and object, inside and outside. A metaphor applied that shows us how we can experience what it is hardly explained rationally.

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Why we all should listen carefully our sense of guilty

I strongly believe what Buddha said: everybody has a buddha-nature.

Our true nature, what is closer to our honest being, is what Buddha and all the masters and realized souls of all the religions, philosophies, countries and times considered the most valuable treasure and the shining diamond of our real destiny. The higher and most noble scope of our life is to discover with enthusiasm and gratefulness this truth.

Life is here, death will be here soon, unexpected. Nobody really knows what will happen in 5 minutes, nobody can guarantee that tomorrow we will have the same conditions of today. What do you want to do with your time? Don’t you think there must be a reason if you and me are here, now?

The simple truth of facts is the opposite of our imaginary world created by ignorance.

Ironically that imaginary world is more similar to the true hell we try so desperately to escape from.

I always had a strong sense of guilty: I felt guilty for not being what the world expected from me, for not doing what was expected from me, for being imperfectly me. For years I fought against this suffering feeling, but a few days ago I understood that my sense of guilty is probably one of the most delicate and sensible parts of me: the best guide I have.

If I would refuse it … well, that would be a terrible mistake:)

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The sterile disappointing feeling of being stuck

Well, I am getting old. I am fine with it, I accepted the idea. Now I am 33, and my body is still strong and fast, but how long will it last?

I have been training all my life, but for what after all? I feel like a race car always kept in the garage.

In the last few years I have achieved everything is commonly considered “an good status”. I work as engineer in Milan as free-lance for a British company. I have my professionality, and in the same time my freedom.

I have a nice body and I do not miss nothing. Nice clothes, a Moto Guzzi in my garage. But in the deep of myself I want to lose everything, lose myself into the world and be a nomad. Is this suicide? I don’t think so, it’s more an obsession.

You will say: so why don’t you simply give away everything and leave to be a bum? The answer is as logical as simple: because I am scared to lose all the benefits I have accumulated in years of hard work. Nice job: scared and ambitious. Bad combo.

When I calm down and I reflect on it, I understand that the place where you are, the job that you do, the people you are with are crucial factors, but nothing compared to your inner maturity. It’s completely nonsense to develop external career if we don’t improve internally. How? With meditation, there are several dfferent techniques, and the majority of them have nothing to do with religion. I guarantee, word of engineer.

Still the problem persists: how we can relate that need for anarchic freedom with our messy but structured society? Is everything there, in the streets?

I don’t have an answer but you will be sure I am going to find out. So long I have reached a certain number of goals. Next will be to have a job that will give me the possibility to live and work from everywhere.

I will keep you updated


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Rules of escaping

My rules to escape:

  • first, the best moment to escape is when it is not expected (i.e. when all the world is doing something else, like working)
  • second, each escape has a specific purpose to be discovered
  • third, each escape is an experiment and the consequences will be inevitable
  • fourth, escaping is art and not just escaping

We all need motivators

Yeah, sport is a drug. One of the best. Yes, believe it: you can get addicted with something that is actually legal, and doesn’t destroy your body (I mean, there are a lot of legal ways to destroy your body if you want). Just stop my training for a few days, and I will start getting nervous for silly things, arguing pointlessly. Then I say to myself: “Calm down and meditate, ot train to death!” I really hate myself when it happens: I feel like Doctor Jakyll/Mr. Hyde.

For years I have been training by myself mixing athletics, gymnastics and martial arts. I have unwittingly developed my own training method which actually works, but sometimes I need to be motivated by somebody that is not ME, otherwise I repeat always the same exercises and the same patterns. We all have weak sides we should work on: friends can help us to notice them and adapt the training to the circumnstances. An external eye sometimes sees what we don’t, because we are too used to watch it.

Why motivation is the real fuel of everybody’s training?

  • 1- We are all connected

I have been preparing by mysefl for sooo long, but I have to admit: we all need an external reference to rely on, not to lose your Northern Star in the dark moments. The only way to ensure yourself results is to be permanently committed, that’s why we all need sombody to make us realise we are not giving 100%

  • 2 – Don’t hesitate, clear your doubts

We all have doubts on what should be done, or not. How to do a certain exercise, if that leg/arm goes in that position, what are the risks of that workout, ect ect. What would happen if you have none to ask your technical questions? You will probably take the minor risk, which means in the majiority of cases you will do the same exercise, in the same old way, and very likely the same error.


Record yourself, watch yourself, ask opinons, compare with the best and then forget about it. Play your own game.

  • 3 – Be always on track

Your motivator is someone who remembers you what is your goal, where you come from, what results you already achieved, where you are going to. Is someone who helps you staying on track, not to lose time. He (or she) wants you to be efficient. Bad times always come, but your motivator knows whent is time to push, and when to rest. Is your friend, because you two share the same passion.


These are just a few good reasons why we all should remember the importance of motivators.

In the best scenario you will find a partner, and a friend.

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Let me say: I am satisfied.

Honestly I am very proud to see that people who is trying MB method like it and want to go on. Let me resume the situation: at the beginning of 2014 I proposed to a few people I know to be their online fitness coach for a couple of months.

Why? Because I think that people need the help of an expert to get fit, to have a clean eating in order to fight the sedentary life that kills our body, and therefore our mind. I hate that.

Turns out that some of the people I know want to participate. I got the information I needed to start and I set up a customized work flow for each of them: wrote them a training plan with some outdoor activities (e.g. jogging) and some indoor workouts supported by MB training videos. Some nutrition advices came from Sara, that is a nutritional pro!

After the first two weeks I had a talk with them in order to chek out their feedbacks, and this is what they said.

35097_415891854155_967005_nStefano works as mechanical engineer in China and wants to lose weight and get fit. He said to me: I have lost 1 Kg of fat mass and gained 0.5 Kg of lean body mass. I am sweating a lot, even after the workout!”

Luca.phpLuca is an engineer too, he is often travelling in Northern Europe. He wants to get fit and improve his performances keeping the nutrition under control: “I feel stronger and firm legs. I am trying to have smaller single snacks, to eat fruit at empty stomach and trying different types of meat.”

DSC_1981Andreja is an artist and enterpreneur. She wants solid legs and butt: “I had a stop with training for a few days because I was in Paris, but even now I feel stronger and firm legs and butt. I am not interested in martial arts but I have to admit that MB works!”

Stay tuned to follow the progress of MB partecipants, and don’t forget to…



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Have some nutrition tips by an expert!

Sara is a professional and certified nutritionist, she works and lives in Slovenia.

1000746_436552283118085_262393392_nI met her during the Ljubljana Health and Fitness Fair in October 2013 and after a few months I asked her if she wanted to cooperate with Metropolitan Beast. Nutrition and training are perfect to join in an Online Coaching!

Since a few weeks she gives nutrition advices to the partecipants of the Metropolitan Beast Fitness Coaching Program. I asked to my clients to fill in a questionnaire and on the basis of their information Sara gave her personal point of view on their nutrition, which is actually a great chance for us all to learn a lot about food and nutrition.

For example about Stefano, Sara says:

Stefano, I saw that you sleep only 6-6,5 hours per night. This is not quite enough if you want complete renovation of your organism. You need at least 7 hours of good sleep. But, on the other hand, if you go to bed at 9 or 10 pm, even 6 hours are enough. It is very important to go to sleep before midnight, because the hours before midnight are the most effective hours of sleeping. It is best to go to sleep latest at 10 pm.

Or again, on Luca:

Luca, you wrote that you drink water when you eat. It isn’t good to drink while eating, because this interrupts digestion. After you had a meal you also mustn’t drink at least for an hour. It is best to drink water before your meal (half an hour before) and then during meals. During workout it is very necessary to drink water, too.

We are proud to work with her, and by the way this is very helpful also for me!

For any question or clarification about nutrition and natural habits here you have her contact:

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Training and living in China

Stefano chose MB as Online Coach. Why?

Stefano is an Italian engineer, he is 33 and works and lives in Ningbo, China. He works for an Italian company. His task is to take care of the Eastern market in his sector. He is resident in Asia since a few years, and travels often (50/60 flights per year). I met Stefano when he got back in Italy for the Christmas holydays and he was interested in online coaching.

35097_415891854155_967005_n“When I am traveling for work it’s difficult to maintain the pace of training and a certain diet. Almost every night I am out for dinner with some client, and I can’t always choose to eat how I want. When I am at home I normally go to the gym three times a week, but when I am in hotel is difficult to train and I am starting gaining weigth“.

This is the perfect situation for MB online coaching – I told him. If you agree, I could follow your training and (as possible) your alimentation for a couple of months: I am sure we can get some good results!

“Yeah, but I have a problem to my knee… You know, I have been playing soccer for so many years, and my left knee now doesn’t have no more cartilage”.

I proposed to start for a couple of weeks of general conditioning, paying attention not to stress his left knee. Stefano’s goal in the first two weeks is to ido a lot of aerobic work, which is the basical work for anyone wants to lose weight. We opted for two different warm-ups: jogging when weather is nice, and MB video warm-up for indoor sessions.

imagesIn addition to his normal body building training for the upper part of the body in the gym, I suggested to implement specific exercises to reinforce the muscles of the thighs which control the knee, in order to help the knees which are actuallt a weakness of Stefano.

Today I had an email from Stefano: I just finished working out now! This week I did 5 workouts and following you suggestion here you have some data, since I also bought the pedometer and the libra which also indicates the fat mass. I also have measured the dimensions of my knee:

Measures right thigh : 41 cm (above the knee) / 59 below the groin
Left : 42/60 (I’m left-handed )

Weight: 93 kg ( lost 1 this week)
Fat Mass: 23.1 kg (according to the libra. Ideal for me is around 15, so we must keep on working!)
Body mass index: 26.6 (ideal under 25)
Average calories: 2900 per day, 900 of which active

We can have a call Thursday in the morning at 8 if it is ok for you, because until Thursday I will be around for work and do not have much time.

For the moment everything is okay. I would like to continue for another week with the same type of workout, then we can introduce something else. Please note that, in addition to strengthening the legs, my goal is to lose weight, since I have at least 8 kg to lose. I got the advices of your friend Sara (the nutritionist), and I will take a look!
If I continue like this and with your help and encouragement we get results!

See you soon

Stay tuned on MB to follow the progress of Stefano with Metropolitan Beast Online Coaching!

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Did you try training online?

Why should you opt for an online service while simply going to the gym?

I am an engineer, and often I am away for work. Sleeping in hotels, with no time or equipment for a real training, this breaks my pace of training, and I lose the results I hardly achieved. This sucks. The problem is we have a little time for ourselves and we must optimize our time and energies to achieve the maximum with the minimum investment. This is called efficiency.

In order to get these results even with difficult boundary conditions we need:

  • clear and simple training program, designed to last no more than max. 1 hour per day;
  • motivation: you need someone to remember you your goal and your deadlines, making you want to get them;
  • nutrition program: that’s why we have an exper for that;
  • flexible program: it must be designed on your likes/dislikes perferences and your personal skills and conditions. Eveything is customized specifically on your needs!

Here you will read the story of whom is already trying MB online coaching.

Andreja Kranjec


Country: Slovenia

Age: 24

Goal: in 2 months better shape and stronger legs

Job occupation: artist and entrerpreneur

Life philosophy: everything is possible if you believe in it!

Stay tuned to know more on her program, her progresses and the other stories of our friends!

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